When I book clients they usually say 'I think we're just going to plan it ourselves', which is usually within the first month of getting engaged. When I talk to them in subsequent meetings they have gotten so overwhelmed they've hired a planner. But, by this time they already have a lot of the main things booked, without input from an expert planner. I can imagine you run into this a lot.... having to work around things that have already been set in stone that ideally you would have advised against in the first place. Is there any advice you can give to brides about what NOT to do in the early planning stages that will eventually make their lives easier when they do book a planner/florist/stylist?
yes, we run into this all of the time. We usually have a bride that comes to us sort of desperate, searching for a clear path and some guidance. Sometimes she has already booked some talents and other times she comes with nothing booked but always, she is overwhelmed.
What I would encouraged all brides to do is SLOW DOWN. First and foremost, you don't need to rush. You can plan a wedding by yourself or you can get a professional to do it but you can't plan a good wedding stressed and rushed. Take your time at first. It is hard to make good decisions under pressure, so take the pressure off of yourself. Seek guidance from an expert first. Planners can save you so much money even if you just enlist one to give you directional advice at the beginning.
Also, keep in mind when you come to a planner or a florist, make sure you come actually seeking their advice. This doesn't mean you do everything they suggest, it just means you are considering their opinion. Most planners and florist will not give you their honest advise about your wedding if you come with them with everything already made up.
What are some things you've been dying to do for a wedding, but haven't yet had the opportunity? are there 'types' of weddings you haven't done yet that you dream about doing? In other words, this is your 'let the universe know' moment!
Oh man! I am dying to find a bride who wants to get married on top of a mountain or Italian Villa overlooking a vineyard. A bride that understand you can only do so much "bringing the outside into" to a venue before it starts to look too overdone. A bride who wants to add to and accent an already incredibly beautiful surrounding with herself. Who focuses on her guest, her food, using what is already naturally blooming and in season around her and focusing on a simple beautiful aesthetic. A person who focuses on keeping her wedding on her and her authentic dreams and not something that is second best or not authentic to her own voice. I would love to find a bride who knows herself and her style very well and is not afraid to showcase it.
finally, I know you're a mom too, any tips for those of us balancing a business and a family?
Oh man, these questions are SO good.
I guess just two words. Time Management. Really cutting out distractions that suck up your time and take you away from your business and your family.
For example, we don't own a TV. We have been offered many TVs as a gift and we always say no. It just takes up too much precious time.
We also don't keep the Facebook App on our phones. Again, just too much time. I plan each day out by the hour the night before.
I use Lara Casey's Power Sheets to plan out my year and I use Emily Ley's Planner. This year I am using Whitney English's Day Designer and am LOVING it.
I keep my handwritten daily schedule with me in a paper in my back pocket and cross out my To Do's as I do them. It keeps me on my toes through out my day and in my free moments keeps me doing the next thing.
Really clear time management helps me to keep clear line between my family and my business. When I close my office door, I close it. I keep my cell phone in my office even sometimes so I am fully present with my family. When I am working I am working. Jackson goes to a play group two days a week and my husband watches him one day. I don't worry about Jackson when he is away ( I mean, of course I worry and think about him) but I don't let the mommy guilt creep in. When I am working, I need to be all there just as much as I need to be all there with my work.